Who Do You Want To Be Today?

If You Could Do Anything This Year, What Would You Do?

This is a timely question that we can ask since we are just still in the second month of this year. I want to revisit my last post to add a little more to what I was really trying to convey:
We adults can learn so much from children. In asking my young boys this question, I noticed they didn’t edit their answers based on fear or self doubt or even reality. They just let their minds wander to the outer reaches of what they could perceive to be right for them at the moment. And they didn’t judge it. As they talked about it, you could see in their faces and their bodies that they were actually experiencing this imaginative vision as they spoke about it!

What does this kind of imagining do for us? When we imagine, we embody the experience (just as I talked about my kid’s faces and bodies “living” the experience). Happy endorphins rush into our blood stream so that we are changed physically. Once we are changed physically, we actually act differently which causes us to attract and gravitate toward things similar-in-feel to what is on our mind. What does this mean? This means by allowing our minds to imagine our best lives (without limitation), we allow ourselves to attract anything that resembles our “best lives”. Otherwise said, we “manifest” the essence (the feeling) of what we imagine. Once we have felt the “feeling” in our bodies, we can recognize anything that resembles or gives us that same feeling. We can begin to more easily connect with these things, places and people that give us that feeling… And this leads to manifesting what feels to be our “best lives”.
This can work in the negative sense when we allow our minds to “worry” or imagine what might happen based on fear. So why not decide to manifest your best life. Here is my idea of my best life:

Full of fun
Fulfillment
Satisfaction
An abundance and endless amount of love (given and received)
An abundance of wealth (whatever comfort level feels right to you)
An abundance of vibrancy, health and energy
A sense of wellbeing
A feeling of empowerment
A great sense of achievement
Stability, groundedness, safety
A sense of adventure, newness, spontaneity
Enjoyment indulging in creativity
A knowing and trust in my own wisdom
Feeling happy in my own skin and my own body
Feeling and knowing that my husband and children feel fully cared for, nurtured, loved, supported, cherished, admired, empowered by me and deeply connected to me
Connecting deeply with dear friends
Connecting deeply with other people
Connecting with the beauty of nature
Creating beauty all around me
Creating meaning in all areas of my life
Sharing the beauty and meaning that I see and create
Assisting others to help themselves to discover and live their best lives

Did you notice these are all feelings that I can embody? Having a list like this to meditate on is the fastest way to manifesting your best life. If you do create a list of more concrete things such as “making a six figure income while working less than 20 hours a week” or “owning and driving a 2013 Audi allroad T2″ or “comfortably wearing size 4 pants” or “weighing 105 pounds”, make sure that you are listing something that you actually believe you can achieve. If not, your doubtful thoughts will be the feelings your body will experience and manifest.

Here’s a recap on how to live your best life:

Ask yourself, “If I could do anything (be anything, experience anything), what would I do?”
Imagine your best life
Create a best life list
Mediate on these things and embodying the feeling of living it
Expect and know that these things will happen (very important!)
Know that you deserve it (also very important)
Enjoy living your best life!

Please email me to let me know that this is working for you! I’d love to hear what your best life feels like!
Your Sensible Girlfriend

I’ve feel like I’ve found one of life’s secrets! I’ve found a way to basically create anything I want in life—including the perfect husband! I’ve learned to do this over many years of trial and error along with borrowing manifesting techniques from other people until I came up with my own formula that works for me.

I have recently manifested probably one of the biggest things in my life—my husband. He is everything I asked for and more. In the past I’ve manifested jobs that I wasn’t qualified for, money that came out of “nowhere” when I needed it and simple things like always having a parking space even in the most congested cities (LA and San Francisco).

Okay, so how do I do this?

Manifesting requires 5 things.
1. Know what you want and be very specific about it.
2. Believe that you deserve it.
3. Visualize it.
4. Feel it as if it has already happened.
5. Know it’s yours without a doubt.

So what does this look like in the process?

Okay, so I when I wanted to manifest the perfect husband. Here’s what I did:
I wrote down all the things that I would want in him—looks, personality, values, general goals similar to mine, etc. Then I would visualize how my daily life would be with him. And then more importantly, I spent a lot of time feeling how I would feel with this man and what my life would feel like. I would feel that content feeling of being loved, cherished, respected and energized by being in love. I experienced a sense of love and pride within my body acknowledging how it would feel to be a family with him. I would see and feel scenarios of our ski trips, teaching the kids how to ski… or at home, making dinner, sitting on the couch with him with the kids crawling all over us and laughing. Feeling it, so that it would permeate my being– so much so that it became the truth… the truth that just hadn’t happened yet, but was inevitable.

Does this always work?
The short answer is yes. Then why doesn’t it happen for everyone?

Two things that get in the way: doubt and believing you don’t deserve it.
The doubt is usually there because you don’t believe that you deserve it. It’s not always easy to get to the bottom of why you don’t feel deserving, but whether it’s something your parents told you or something else learned, it’s a belief that you’re holding on to. And the reason you’re holding on to it is probably because it feels like some sort of protection from pain.

When I turned 40 and there wasn’t even a possible candidate for a husband in my life, I was discouraged, but instead of doubting, I was just impatient. I was saying, “Where is he already? I know my husband is out there, why isn’t he showing up yet?” I got sad sometimes and worried that I wouldn’t find him in time to have a baby, but there was no doubt in my mind that he existed. So then out of the blue he appeared in the most unlikely way: I met him on vacation in Hawaii and two and a half months later he proposed marriage and said he was ready to start a family. Mind you this is a 28 year-old guy who never wanted to get married or have a baby before that moment.

Here’s how I manifest jobs:
When I go for the interview, I imagine myself passing through the front door and talking to the guard or the receptionist as if I pass through those doors every day. I feel the feeling in my body as if it’s a routine thing to walk down the hall, eat in the lunch room, and I virtually inhabit the place by feeling it in my body. It has worked every time unless I have doubt.

Let’s talk about doubt.
Doubt totally kills the deal. If you have a shred of doubt, it will not happen. The only reason we have doubt is that you don’t believe it can happen. And the core reason you probably can’t see it happening is because you feel you don’t deserve it or you feel you don’t have what it takes to get it.

A lot of doubt comes from what we’ve been told. If you buy into what you’ve been told from someone who claims to know better or buy into what your parents told you as a child… you are limited by those beliefs. My brother-in-law would tell me not to drive to certain neighborhoods in San Francisco during certain hours because he said I wouldn’t find a place to park. (He lived in San Francisco his whole life and I had just moved there.) I would go anyway and I would always find a parking spot because I believed I would.

DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT, KNOW YOU DESERVE IT, BELIEVE THAT IT IS AND IT WILL BE YOURS!

Angeline Chew-Longshore is a television news and print journalist specializing in wellness, personal growth, sexuality and women’s issues.

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