Who Do You Want To Be Today?

If You Could Do Anything This Year, What Would You Do?

This is a timely question that we can ask since we are just still in the second month of this year. I want to revisit my last post to add a little more to what I was really trying to convey:
We adults can learn so much from children. In asking my young boys this question, I noticed they didn’t edit their answers based on fear or self doubt or even reality. They just let their minds wander to the outer reaches of what they could perceive to be right for them at the moment. And they didn’t judge it. As they talked about it, you could see in their faces and their bodies that they were actually experiencing this imaginative vision as they spoke about it!

What does this kind of imagining do for us? When we imagine, we embody the experience (just as I talked about my kid’s faces and bodies “living” the experience). Happy endorphins rush into our blood stream so that we are changed physically. Once we are changed physically, we actually act differently which causes us to attract and gravitate toward things similar-in-feel to what is on our mind. What does this mean? This means by allowing our minds to imagine our best lives (without limitation), we allow ourselves to attract anything that resembles our “best lives”. Otherwise said, we “manifest” the essence (the feeling) of what we imagine. Once we have felt the “feeling” in our bodies, we can recognize anything that resembles or gives us that same feeling. We can begin to more easily connect with these things, places and people that give us that feeling… And this leads to manifesting what feels to be our “best lives”.
This can work in the negative sense when we allow our minds to “worry” or imagine what might happen based on fear. So why not decide to manifest your best life. Here is my idea of my best life:

Full of fun
Fulfillment
Satisfaction
An abundance and endless amount of love (given and received)
An abundance of wealth (whatever comfort level feels right to you)
An abundance of vibrancy, health and energy
A sense of wellbeing
A feeling of empowerment
A great sense of achievement
Stability, groundedness, safety
A sense of adventure, newness, spontaneity
Enjoyment indulging in creativity
A knowing and trust in my own wisdom
Feeling happy in my own skin and my own body
Feeling and knowing that my husband and children feel fully cared for, nurtured, loved, supported, cherished, admired, empowered by me and deeply connected to me
Connecting deeply with dear friends
Connecting deeply with other people
Connecting with the beauty of nature
Creating beauty all around me
Creating meaning in all areas of my life
Sharing the beauty and meaning that I see and create
Assisting others to help themselves to discover and live their best lives

Did you notice these are all feelings that I can embody? Having a list like this to meditate on is the fastest way to manifesting your best life. If you do create a list of more concrete things such as “making a six figure income while working less than 20 hours a week” or “owning and driving a 2013 Audi allroad T2″ or “comfortably wearing size 4 pants” or “weighing 105 pounds”, make sure that you are listing something that you actually believe you can achieve. If not, your doubtful thoughts will be the feelings your body will experience and manifest.

Here’s a recap on how to live your best life:

Ask yourself, “If I could do anything (be anything, experience anything), what would I do?”
Imagine your best life
Create a best life list
Mediate on these things and embodying the feeling of living it
Expect and know that these things will happen (very important!)
Know that you deserve it (also very important)
Enjoy living your best life!

Please email me to let me know that this is working for you! I’d love to hear what your best life feels like!
Your Sensible Girlfriend

[Photo Credit: NASA; the Gulf oil spill April 29, shortly after the April 20 explosion.]

As a parent, we want to protect and shield our children from the horrors and disasters of the world. But the reality is that we live in a world where bad things happen.  Take for instance, the recent oil spew in the gulf which is a devistating disaster harming sea life, ocean, beaches, people physically and financially and the long term affects are unknown.  Or the subprime housing fiasco which pulled the rug out from under the foundation of our economy.  We feel it.  We can’t ignore it.  But how much do we share about it with our children?  A mom I know posed this question which got me thinking about the duality in life.

My children are very young, so we haven’t gotten that deep yet…

But my belief is to always tell them everything based in truth and as much reality as is age appropriate… and then to end with hope for the future or the possible upside of things.

Children take in a lot from us that is non-verbal. If we react deeply to a situation such as the oil spill, they feel it.  If we feel hopeless about the state of the world and our future, they will feel it even if you express in words otherwise.

In my opinion, it comes down to our own trust in life. Yes there is always going to be duality, as there is always dark and light.  But that dark can be interpreted and deeply felt either as despair and hopelessness… or as the reality of darkness that does exist in this world, but does not take away the abundancy of light that also exists.  Nature (God/Universe) has a way of giving ultimate power to the good, even if we don’t see or understand it.  The law of nature is healing beyond statistics, studies, human degradation and our capacity to understand it or see it in it’s entirety.

My belief is that this trust in the good (God/Universe) in life is the rock that will keep me and my family on solid ground when life throws unknowns our way. Even if we don’t talk about this trust, our children feel it in our voice, in our body language and our overall energy.  As they grow up, it can help them to face the dark in life and deal with it as it comes their way.  We parents can demonstrate that we can care and even act upon what is happening without being swallowed up by the darkness of it.  It is a tool that can even help our children to be leaders in shining light where it seemed only darkness existed.   We can share a limited amount of the reality of the situation with them and then any amount of good or hope that we can see.

With the good comes the bad… and with the bad comes the good.  Which do you want to focus on?  That’s what your children will focus on too.

Wishing you and your family lots of light in a sometimes dark world,
Your Sensible Girlfriend